What Is A Pole Party?

My best friend wants me to organize a pole party for her stagette, but I don't know much about them or what happens so I'm super nervous about planning it. Can you tell me what exactly happens at a pole party, and where to start with planning?
~ Becka

If you just Googled "what is a pole party" and landed on this page, Your Pole Pal's guess is that one of the following probably applies:

• Like Becka, your best friend is getting married and you've been asked to organize a pole party but you have no idea what that is or how you should go about planning it

• Someone close to you just told you they're going to a pole party, or were just at one, and you're a wee bit concerned about what exactly they're up to

• You've been invited to a pole dancing party and want to know what you're in for before you send your RSVP.

A pole dancing party is a fun and unique way to celebrate a special occasion, like a birthday or a stagette/bachelorette party. Usually it's a group of women who get together, but these days parties can be co-ed too.

At the party, an experienced pole dancing instructor or pole party facilitator teaches the group some simple pole dancing moves. Typically, a party involves 1-2 hours of pole time in a structured format that takes everyone from basic pole dance moves to building a simple routine by the end of the party.

But don't worry, there's no stripping involved! And you don't need any pole dancing experience; pole parties are geared to beginners and the focus is definitely on fun.

Part of the instructor's job is also to make sure everyone feels comfortable, has a great time, and most importantly, ensures everyone stays safe.

Pole parties can be held in a home setting, in which case the instructor will bring a portable dance pole and all the necessary supplies with them. Parties can also be held in a pole dancing studio with several dance poles so everyone gets more pole time.

In addition to learning some simple pole dance moves, there are often extra touches included or available as add-ons, such as a champagne toast, decorations, costumes or props, photo opportunities, performances and goody bags.

While every studio or presenter has their own "formula" for a fun pole party, typically the party will go something like this...

To start with, most likely everyone in your group will be required to sign a waiver, and there should be some basic safety information given. For example, you'll probably be asked to remove rings and other loose jewelry, and to wash any lotion off your hands (hand lotion and dance poles are a dangerous combination!).

During this time, your pole party facilitator will introduce herself, and there likely will be some fun icebreaker activities planned. The idea is to help everyone relax and get in the party mood, as well as to help everyone feel comfortable together in case not all the guests know each other.

One popular icebreaker activity is for each guest to choose their own pole dancer name for the evening.

There may also be a champagne toast (usually with fake bubbly, for safety reasons), or some other type of ice-breaker activity. Your party presenter might also give a short talk to let everyone know what the format for the pole party will be, and to set the stage for the fun to come.

When it's time to get started, there will probably be some kind of warm up to get all the guests ready for the activity to follow. While you'll definitely be having fun, pole dancing can be quite a workout even at the beginner level. That's why it's important to warm up so you don't hurt yourself.

After everyone is relaxed and warmed up, it's time to get the party underway!

During the main part of the event, your instructor will demonstrate different moves and help everyone learn them.

If you're in a home setting, you'll more than likely be gathered around a single dance pole encouraging your friends as they try the moves.

If you're in a studio setting with several poles, you may be sharing with another person or two. That way, you'll get to help and support each other while you learn and laugh.

Time will fly by as you're learning the moves, and before you know it you'll be pole dancing like a pro!

Before the party wraps up, the instructor will usually encourage each participant to show off their moves for their friends in a "pole performance."

Some people can be shy about this at first, but with a little encouragement from the rest of the partygoers everyone usually takes a turn.

Sometimes costume items or props like boas, hats and wigs are provided, to make this even more fun. And if there's a guest of honor such as a birthday girl or bride-to-be, she'll often be asked to dance last, as a grand finale to the evening.

As the party winds down, you'll probably want a group photo around the pole, so everyone can remember how much fun they had. Your party presenter will normally be delighted to help. Remember to get a picture with everyone's camera!

Once the pole party is over, you may be asked to fill out a brief feedback or evaluation form before you leave. Most studios and pole dancing teachers are interested in hearing about how they can improve their pole parties, and getting feedback from you is the best way they can do this.

At the end of many pole parties, a small goody bag is given to each guest as an extra treat and a "thank you for coming" gift. If there's a guest of honor, sometimes the guests get together ahead of time and create a special gift bag for them, which is presented at the end of the party.

Whether you've been tasked with planning a pole dancing stagette party for a bride-to-be, or you're planning your own birthday pole party, here's a quick guide to help you plan the big event.

🌅 Start early
Many pole studios and party presenters book up months in advance, so it's a good idea to start the planning process as early as possible.

🗓️ Choose a date
If you're doing the planning for someone else like a bride or birthday girl, of course you'll want to consult with them on their preferred date. It's a good idea to also have a backup date in mind, in case the party presenter isn't available on your first-choice date.

📞 Contact potential pole party presenters
Contact one or more pole studios or party presenters in your area and ask each one about the cost, the format, what's included, where the party is held (home, hotel or studio), and any other questions that are important to you. This page can help, as it lists some specific questions you should ask before booking a pole party.

👯‍♂️ Choose a pole party presenter and book your date
Once you've decided on a party presenter, you'll want to book your date as soon as possible. Most pole party presenters will require a deposit to reserve your date, so be prepared to pay this at the time you book your date.

📋 Make your guest list and send invitations
Now that the date has been set, it's time to invite the guests. Generally, you want to send your invitations several weeks to a month in advance. Too far in advance and your guests might forget the date; too close to the date and they may already be committed to another engagement and be unable to attend. Sending written invitations in the mail is a fun way to surprise the guests, but you can also send email invitations or phone the guests individually to invite them.

🙋🏻‍♀️ Collect RSVPs
It's important to know how many guests will be coming. The studio may have a minimum or maximum number for the party, and if for some reason you don't have enough guests confirmed you'll want to know well in advance so you can either reschedule or cancel prior to the party presenter's cutoff date so you can get some or all of your deposit back. Also, if the guests are sharing the cost of the pole party (this is often the case for a stagette or bachelorette party) you'll need to know how much money each of the guests will need to contribute to pay for the party.

🎁 Plan a gift bag for the guest of honor (optional)
If you're planning a pole party for a birthday girl or a bride-to-be, you may want to prepare a special gift bag to be presented at the end of the party. Many party presenters include small gift bags for each of the guests, but if there's a guest of honor the other party guests might want to pitch in to put together a special gift bag.

👍 Reconfirm a week prior to the party
While not strictly necessary, reconfirming with the guests can help ensure things go smoothly. Since both you and the party presenter will be expecting a set number of guests, and the guests might be sharing the cost, it may be important to know in advance if the number of expected guests changes. The party presenter will likely contact you, as the organizer, to confirm the party as well, but if you don't hear from them a week or so prior, be sure to touch base just to make sure they've still got your party in their schedule.

🚗 Arrive early on the date
Whether the pole party is being held in a home or studio setting, as the organizer you'll want to be the first on the scene. This way you can greet the party presenter and if the party is in a home, show them where to set up. You'll also be available to welcome each of the guests as they arrive, and introduce them to the others if necessary. Being on-site early will also allow you to deal with any unexpected situations that arise — like a phone call from a guest who's lost and can't find the venue — with a minimum of stress and last-minute panic.

Now that you have a better idea of what a pole party is, you might be wondering how to find an instructor who can facilitate a party for you and your friends.

Fortunately, you don't need to look very far! The worldwide pole dancing directory lists thousands of pole studios, instructors and pole party companies from all over the world. It's totally free and easy to use. If you need some help planning a pole dancing party, the directory is a great place to start.

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