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Everyone knows that birthdays and stagette/bachelorette parties are prime pole party occasions. But if you're wanting to throw a pole dancing party with no bride-to-be or birthday girl in sight, you might be looking for some pole party ideas, aka reasons to celebrate so you can get your friends together and have a little pole fun.

Of course, you never need a reason to throw a pole party, but the ideas on this page are a fun way to spice up your event by incorporating holidays or important milestones into the celebrations.

Whether you're looking for an excuse to hold a pole dancing party in the first place, seasonal ideas to make your event even more fun, or you're looking for some specific themes to pole  by, you'll find lots of ideas here.

Pole Party Ideas - By The Season

If you're planning a girls' night "just because" and would like to incorporate some kind of theme, here are some fun pole party ideas that play on different times of the year and the holidays that go with them.

January - New Year, New You

Tell your friends it's time to start the new year off right! Get them out of their comfort zone and into their sexy new selves with this idea, which works especially well if most of the guests are new to pole dancing.

To prepare for this party, ask everyone to wear something totally unlike what they normally would wear, bring an appy to share that they don't normally eat, and at the beginning of the party have everyone share with each other what one of their "New Me" goals is for the coming year. You can even let them know in advance, so everyone can be prepared when it's their turn to share.

As the pole party gets underway, encourage the guests to let go of the old and "embrace the new" as they give pole dancing a try!

February - Valentine's Day Party

Got a guy? If so, hint to your man that you'd like nothing better than a pole dancing party for this most romantic of days. Then leave a brochure or the phone number for your local studio or instructor lying carelessly around the house, and watch him spring into action.

If everyone in your pole party group agrees, maybe you can even arrange to let the guys in for a private performance right after the pole party, to show off your new moves.

If the women in your group aren't hooked up, and you don't want to let another Valentine's Day pass you by because you've got no one special in your life to celebrate with, make it a "We're Too Hot to Handle" pole party theme!

Invite all your single friends to celebrate their best qualities with you. At the start of the party, ask everyone to share something they love about their own body. It could be their strong shoulders, gorgeous golden locks, or their beautifully dainty toes.

As the pole party gets underway, remind the guests of what they love about themselves by encouraging them to "point those sexy toes!" or whatever might apply to each person. Everyone will soon be joining in, and the evening is sure to be a fun and positive experience for all.

March/April - Spring Fling

After a long, cold winter who doesn't love to celebrate the return of Spring? This year, why not go all out and throw a Spring Fling pole dancing party!

For this pole party idea, have everyone dress in their finest Spring Fling finery - perhaps sandals, sun dresses or shorts and tanks, even sunglasses and sunhats if they like.

For refreshments, you could serve up garden party style snacks like those fancy little cucumber sandwiches with the crust cut off that your grandmother used to make. Then cool off after the active part of the party with a fresh and fruity punch.

May - Maypole Party

This year, why not put a new twist on the traditional May Day activities with a May Day themed pole party?

Make old-fashioned invitations, and decorate the room with lots of paper streamers to simulate the traditional Maypole dance. You could even incorporate an actual ribbon-weaving, skirt twirling Maypole dance into your party for extra fun and frivolity, and to try something new!

Summer - Beach Theme Pole Party

When the weather heats up but vacation time is still a ways off, a beach pole party lets everyone enjoy a taste of Summer beach holidays at home.

Invitations for this pole party idea could ask the guests to come in beach wear, whether bikinis, shorts and tank tops, or sundresses. Sunhats and sunglasses are a must, of course!

Serve drinks from a cooler, along with whatever picnic food you'd bring along for a day at the beach...cold, juicy fruits like watermelon and grapes, hard-boiled eggs, and hummus with crackers are all good options.

It goes without saying that the music for this pole party idea should be beach themed too, so pull out your favourite Summer playlist. Or head back in time and play songs by the Beach Boys (Surfin' USA) and other beach tunes from "way back when."

October - Pole-o-we'en Party

As Fall arrives and those who enjoy a good fright are busy preparing for Hallowe'en parties, why not put a new twist on things with a vertical Pole-o-we'en party?

Everyone dresses in scary costumes or sexy outfits (of course!) and even the music can be on the spooky side if you like. Refreshments and decorations can follow the traditional creepy Hallowe'en theme, or be more in keeping with the sexy theme - think strawberries dipped in chocolate, champagne punch, and fancy finger foods.

December - North Pole Party

What better way to keep warm during the chilly month of December than by celebrating the holidays with a North Pole Party!

This fun spin on the season plays on the Santa theme of course, but it's just as fun no matter which holiday you celebrate at this time of year.

The hostess and/or party presenter may want to get into the act by dressing as a sexy elf or other fictitious helper. And decorating should be a breeze, since the house or venue probably has the holiday decorations up already.

The food can be traditional holiday fare, or perhaps follow the chilly North Pole theme by being extra warming - think cozy apple cider, warm soup or chili, or hot appies. Don't forget the peppermint candy sticks that will serve as favors and mementos for the guests!

If none of the above theme ideas resonates with you, maybe all you need is an excuse to throw a party. To help you out, here are....

10 Great Excuses to (Pole) Party

1. I'm getting married & cutesy shower games are soooo not me
   
   
2. I just got divorced and need to get my groove back
   
   
3. I'm turning 40 (50, 60, 70, etc)
   
   
4. I just graduated from college/university and want one final fling before I buckle down and get serious in the working world
   
   
5. I'm retiring (but not from the fun stuff!)
   
   
6. I need some quality girl bonding time
   
   
7. I just had a baby and want to feel sexy again
   
   
8. I'm fretting over my empty nest
   
   
9. My youngest kid just moved out and now it's party time for me!
   
   
10. If it's good enough for Oprah, it's good enough for me

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